We all want to be happy, have high self confidence and esteem, and we all want to be valued – but what value do you really put on your self confidence and esteem – and are you valuing the right areas of your life?
People all around the world lead a life of routine. We work, live, have families, look forward to retirement and then pass away. We hang onto possessions, money and ideals and spend a lifetime looking for our ‘ideal’ life – but often we miss those simple opportunities that arise to boost our self confidence and add value and meaning to our lives.
Giving To Others
An easy way to boost your self confidence is to actually give to others. When we truly give to others, we produce a win-win result; the person we give to feels good and we feel good. These good feelings increase our positive thoughts and feelings – thus increasing our self confidence and esteem.
By changing our focus from what we want and moving it to how we can help others achieve what they want, we increase both our self confidence and self worth – and our own value increases as a result. We believe we have something of value to give – our time, our expertise and our skills – and this benefits both ourselves and the other person.
Change Your Focus
Our lives are often made miserable because of what we are focused on. Too often we are focused on what we don’t have, what’s missing in our life, and ensuring we get it before others do. Your self confidence however, can be dramatically increased through a simple change of focus. Most problems we face in life actually arise from having a wrong focus.
We all want the best for ourselves. We want the best job, we want comfort, we want satisfaction – but we often are so focused on what we want, we miss being grateful for what we actually already have.
Being grateful for those things you already have in your life opens you up to receiving more of what you want. Taking time to appreciate what you have, and being truly grateful for those things, adds value to your life – and your self confidence will increase too. This is because you are taking time to acknowledge that YOU achieved getting those things – you wanted something, you aimed for it and you believed you could get it – you have enough faith in your own abilities; enough belief and self confidence to get them.
Tolerance & Forgiveness
Learning to tolerate other people and forgive them for their mistakes will also lead you to a happier, more confident life. By treating others with the same respect you treat yourself with, you ensure the self confidence and worth of both the other person and yourself increase.
Part of respecting both others and yourself is accepting that everyone is different. They may have certain ways of doing things that isn’t the same as yours – and vice versa – however this is part of what makes that person unique. Learn to make allowances for this and learn to tolerate their little quirks, as they do yours – your self confidence will then flourish. If they make mistakes as a result, then let it slide – forgive them and move on. Equally important, learn to forgive yourself. If you slip up or make a mistake, forgive yourself and move on.
The value you place on yourself and your abilities is an important part of building your self confidence – and valuing other people and their abilities will enable you to boost both their self confidence and esteem – and yours too.
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