Do you know the real you? Do you ever wonder what happened to that girl – you know, the one who matured into the woman you are now? Did the boy you were, grow into the man you thought you’d become?
What makes you so special? Do you know – honestly? Have the demands of day-to-day life blurred the distinctions between your real self and your public self? Do others see the real you or the public face you show others? How much of the real YOU do others see? Who exactly are you?
Chances are you’re a spouse or partner, a parent, and a money-earner now and the responsibility of these roles keep you happy and busy walking a certain path. You may also be juggling the role of sibling, neighbour, committee member, campaigner, charity worker… the list, for most of us, is endless. Each role we play often means we create another version of ourselves or another layer over the real you underneath.
Women in particular are still so programmed to take care of others we can quite easily lose sight of the ‘real you’, and the demands made on men are changing constantly.
All of which is great – but what about YOU – the real you? You are one in a million, a one-off, there’s no one just like you, nor will there ever be. This four part series will be giving ten strategies in answer to the question of ‘how do you go about uncovering the real you?’
1. Picture The Real You
Find a photograph of yourself when you were a young teenager. Preferably, a picture of you doing something active and having fun. Spend 10-15 minutes really looking at yourself. Think of what you really wanted to be and do at that point in your life. What words and values does that photograph bring up? Make a note of everything that comes into your mind.
2. Ask Someone You Trust
If you are struggling to see beyond the here and now and remember what the younger you was like, or you’re struggling with the practical implications of any thoughts that came up in the first point, try this exercise. Ask someone who’s opinion you trust (i.e. parent, friend, partner etc) what three qualities they associate with the real you.
If they knew you when you were younger, what qualities they associated with you then. Get them to describe the kind of person you were and what they liked about you and why. Make a note of all the qualities they mention, and then write a sentence for each using present tense.
In Part 2 we will continue this four part series of uncovering the real you, by looking at dreams and how being selfish can actually be a good thing.
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